If you’ve ever done any reading on the topic of triggers or behavior, you’ll note that most often times the word “trigger” is linked directly to negative thoughts or actions. Negative triggers may cause a person to:
- Light up a cigarette
- Grab an alcoholic drink
- Cause panic or fear
- Lose our temper
- Devour an entire tub of ice cream
Whether you know it or won’t admit it, we all have negative triggers in our lives and we live them out daily. I had many triggers (built up over time) that caused my brain to want chewing tobacco. I’m not proud of it, but I broke them down and got rid of them.
But what about the other side of the trigger?
The positivity triggers that put you at your highest level of confidence? Tony Robbins calls this level of confidence being in a “peak state”. Your peak state is the place where all is right, you’re in a flow, confidence is high, and you’re in full-on CRUSH MODE.
Why do you want to get here?
The answer should be obvious. It’s where you are at your best. You’re the most intelligent, the funniest, the most witty, the sharpest, the most confident, and the best version of you is on FULL display. Arthur Ashe described it best and most simply.
Loose body, tight mind
Can you be in a peak state all of the time? No. You simply can’t. Tight body, tight mind is much more prevalent today. This state is labeled: ANXIETY. This is what we want to avoid. That’s exactly why you need to identify the positivity triggers to bring you back when you’re struggling or when you’re anxious.
Think of a great scorer in basketball.
The game started and they missed their first 3-4 shots. What is the single most important thing they can do in game to adjust?
Get to the free throw line immediately. Why? Many reasons really.
- Its an unobstructed view of the basket. No defense = easier chance of conversion.
- All great scorers and free throw shooters have a rhythm or cadence at the line to prepare for the foul shots. This cadence allows them to get back into flow immediately.
- Most important. Great shooters need to see the ball go in. They need the confidence boost. It only takes one bucket to drop as a shooter to know the rest of them are ALL going in.
I’m a much better basketball player (or at least I was) than I am a golfer. But they’re not that much different. What does a struggling golfer attempt to find first when they’re lost with their swing? Tempo. They’re not trying to hit a 230 yd three iron with a 5 yd draw. They have a wedge in hand and they’re exclusively focused on a couple mechanics and tempo, tempo, tempo. Finding confidence in the swing.
So how can this look in our daily lives?
I can only speak for me and give you insight into a few of my positivity triggers. Side note – a couple of them may sound a bit weird (I don’t care). Find something that works…for YOU!
- Clothing – There is a shirt maker in Richmond, VA I love called Ledbury (Ledbury.com). They make limited run dress shirts and their slim fit sizing fits me nearly perfectly (15.5″ neck of course if you’re thinking of gifting me one). One may argue they’re a touch expensive, but expense is rather relative when I think of all the money I’ve made wearing these shirts. Why do I love them? Because they make me look good (sorry, I’m a vain person) and feel good. My confidence levels flow at a high level because I’m not worried or focused on what I’m wearing. Big meeting, speaking engagement, pitch, guess what I’m wearing? Ledbury.
- Soap – Call me crazy, but hear me out first. Have you ever stayed in a really nice hotel and used a great (and likely scented) soap? If yes, how did you feel coming out of that shower? AWESOME. Guess what I’ve done? I buy more of it and keep it handy for a BIG day or special occasions. Once again. How do you think I feel? Awesome. This isn’t a smell thing, its a state thing. A personal favorite I picked up from W Hotels is Bliss Lemon and Sage
- Morning Videos – Almost every day of the working week (Monday through Friday) I start my day at home with a locked in mindset on success. Where do I go? Youtube. I make it a point every morning to reset my mind on my goals and a successful mindset. If you want the specifics, I’ll watch videos from: Tony Robbins, Steve Jobs, Eric Thomas, Brendon Burchard, Robert Kiyosoki, stoic philosophy and the list goes on. Motivation is fleeting and I believe the mind needs to be fed just as the body needs nutrition. News flash folks, the morning news isn’t nutritious brain food.
- Personal Audio/Video – I keep a few files saved when I need a reminder just how abundant my life is with my wife and son. There are 3-4 very personal videos and audio files I have saved on my phone that I listen to when I’m faced with a tough scenario, business decision, or life throws me a curve ball. A coupe of them bring tears to my eyes almost immediately and I find that’s about all a grown man needs to get back to center. No problem to big. No scenario too daunting. I have all that I need.
- 10 Minute Meditation – If you’ve followed the blog you know my growing embrace for the Eastern practice of meditation. Ten minutes of alone time and some practiced breathing can reset my mind, body, nervous system and overall well being.
I truly hope these ideas help you. I hope you become aware of what makes you the happiest and most confident version of yourself. Pay attention to what may work for others, but know you are unique.
It has to work for YOU. That’s all that matters.
ACTION ITEM: Spend the next few days surrounding yourself with a list of positive triggers. I know you’ll be much closer to achieving what’s in front of you when you consistently operate at the highest level.