I asked this question to my wife a few months back.
What if we lived in a trailer?
Imagine the look on her face…
Odd question I know, and in no means do I mean to offend anyone. It’s just that…I’ve never lived in a trailer. That said, I can promise you one thing, I’m not afraid of it either.
There comes a point when you have to realize something.
What are you afraid to lose?
I came to the following conclusion. If I have my wife, and my son, we’ll figure it out from there. What else is there to really worry about?
I won’t lie one bit. I like to have nice things as much as the next guy, but reading stoic philosophy led me to a better understanding of how to see things for what they really are and nothing more. As Ryan Holiday puts it in his book The Obstacle Is the Way: The Timeless Art of Turning Trials into Triumph
Filet Mignon – Aged animal carcass
Great Wine – Old grapes
A beautiful car – transportation
If you’re worried about what your “friends” will think, I’ll give you the obvious answer.
They’re probably not really your friends. Move on.
By all means have fun. Experience all life has to offer and don’t feel one bit of guilt. But don’t get over committed to an empty and endless pursuit of more.
Lastly, don’t be afraid to take a chance or two along the way. The fear of losing your expensive car lease needs to be reevaluated.
This feeling of freedom will provide you all the energy and clear vision you need to achieve your goals.
ACTION ITEM: It’s ok to be afraid, but don’t be afraid of losing the wrong stuff.