ACTION ITEM: Believe it or not, some aren’t comfortable challenging you, your thoughts, or your actions. Be the bigger leader and ask for them. Ask them to challenge your thinking, remove the roadblock, and open the collaboration.
ACTION ITEM: (it helps if you sing this) “I get by with a little help from my friends,” wrote John Lennon and Sir Paul McCartney. I’m guilty of not asking for help in times of need. I know others feel the same way. So I thought, If I can’t fix my own stubbornness, I can make the effort to help someone else. Ask often, and ask with integrity to help.
ACTION ITEM: There are very successful people out there who have no problem creating momentum for themselves. They may be reading this post (I hope they are). This is a lonely race to run and a challenge I’ve struggled with. The real success I was searching for, came in magnitudes much greater when I started working for everyone else. Challenge, teach, encourage and build with high standards.
ACTION ITEM: When you see the word “invest” think money. Yes, I do think it is possible to get better without spending a dime, but it also lacks commitment. Books, audiobooks, online courses, exercise classes, seminars,…do something! Get invested in yourself or be prepared to live in the mediocre middle.
ACTION ITEM: This just feels weird reading, doesn’t it? Uncomfortable…I’d rather settle into this couch. The US Navy SEALS train in the uncomfortable every day. If you don’t know what “wet and sandy” is, I recommend Googling it. The more uncomfortable the scenario, the more they are prepared for anything anyone can throw at them. I’m certainly no SEAL, but I love the mindset. Hooyah!!
ACTION ITEM: In order to grow stronger and build muscle, a person must lift heavier weights. Is the person lifting afraid of the weights? I highly doubt it. So, why then should you be afraid of a challenge standing right in front of you? The only way to grow is to accept the challenge and punch fear in the face!
ACTION ITEM: If you’ve ever said to yourself (and I know you have), I wonder what <insert name> is up to? Then you need to take this challenge and call them. There’s a pretty good chance they’re feeling the same way (except they didn’t read this post!). Unless of course you’re one of those SUPER AWESOME people who help share my content.
Incase you missed it yesterday, or you’re wondering what the heck you’re looking at, I launched a 31 day series in the month of March titled “31 Days of Challenging Questions” – follow the link to get up to speed. Enjoy and I’ll see you tomorrow!
ACTION ITEM: I don’t think anyone can be accused of being overly thankful. Take a moment out of your day and thank a person or two who wouldn’t see it coming. It will make their day better and your gratitude will not be forgotten.
While on a flight back from New York about a month ago, I was doing some thinking. I wanted to do something truly BIG on my blog for the month of March. The answer I settled on was 31 days of posts focused on the challenging questions I learned during the last year.
After 31 days of challenging questions and learning more about yourself, it will be terrific to look back at where you were when you started! As my good friend Juan Teran always says, with tremendous enthusiasm (in tribute to his friend Zig Ziglar), “See you at the top!”
ACTION ITEM: Why not you? Why can’t you start that new opportunity, get that raise, run that marathon? Take desire and turn it into action.
I’m driving, I’m paying attention (so I think), and I make a move to change lanes. Suddenly, I catch a glimpse of the car I thought I’d checked for, right in my blind spot. I nearly hit them.
My heart races. My mouth gets dry like I just ate 100 crackers. Adrenaline spikes. I immediately check all mirrors and veer back into my lane. Somehow I’m trying to figure out if I apologize with a kind smile or wave to my victim. I didn’t mean it, you were in my blind spot…
I have a couple blind spots. Everyone does. It’s human nature. I’m going to tell you about mine and how I check my mirrors (when reflecting) to make sure I’m not running anyone over.
My first blind spot is the slippery slope of my confidence level. Not sure where it came from, but I’ve always been a fairly confident person. I wouldn’t fault myself or anyone else for this. I believe a person needs an edge to win, and if I can’t believe in myself, who will right?!?
In the past, I’ve let my confidence pass the line from being confident and humble to cocky. Let me tell you something quick. No one likes the word cocky or the definition of the person it’s labeling. I have written proof of this.
I have unbelievable friends. Friends so committed to looking after me, they will tell me the truth. The BRUTAL truth. These are my truths from a time in my life I’m not proud of, but I can’t change. The following thoughts came from a great friend of mine via email nearly seven years ago and it addresses one of my blind spots.
I must first preface this email by saying this: I care about you a lot, you are one of my best friends, and this is why I feel comfortable enough to say the things that you are about to read below.
My friend goes on to describe behaviors of mine that could easily be labeled as arrogant and careless in regard to other people. You may wonder why I keep such a message? I keep it because the feelings were real and it generates real emotion. Every time I read it I get angry at myself. But I, nor you, can change the past. I am, however, comfortable with knowing I have the opportunity not to be this person ever again based on my daily actions and behaviors. Back to the message.
The reason I am telling you all of this: Because I am your friend and I want to continue to have you as my friend. I also care about Beth (my wife) and I believe that she deserves the Zac that you used to be. I also know that you can handle this critique because if you couldn’t, I would not send you this email. I also hope that if I ever need a little check on myself, that you will be one of the first ones to call me out.
My immediate response is overwhelming. Thank you! Thank you! If my friend is reading this (and I really hope they are), they will know how things turned out for the better, maybe even the BEST! I think it is safe to say this letter may have reset my life into a better direction. A direction I’m proud to say I’m on today.
The second blind spot I’m aware of is my tendency to over-focus on achievement. I’m a very driven person. I will laser focus on achieving the next thing, the next win, the next big advance (personally and professionally). As you can imagine, at times, this hyper focus will cause me to lose sight of what really matters. Precious time with family, friends, and simply just enjoying life is what really matters.
Good news, I’m getting better. Much better. The birth of my son added a perspective I thought I was ready for, but greatly under appreciated until it actually happened. I believe I’m much better now at focusing on the essential and leaving the trivial to pass. I’ll always be driven, but now I feel I’m more dangerous because I have the power to pursue and let go equally.
If you’re tracking on my analogies, blind spots are there for all of us. We just have to take an extra second to see what’s actually going on around us and be willing to see it for what it really is. In my case, I have a wonderful group of very close friends and a wife who sometimes seems to be more interested in taking care of me than I am. They help me see what is out of focus in my life.
ACTION ITEM: Followers know I write from time to time about reflection. I can’t say enough about how valuable it is in seeing the bigger picture at hand. I challenge you to reflect and write down two of your blind spots. It DOES NOT make you a bad person. On the contrary, I believe it adds much needed awareness to your life.
