I’m thinking about the latter of the words this Independence Day holiday. Happiness. Isn’t it odd, and sort of fitting these are the words from the well-penned script I’m thinking about from the declaration of Independence crafted in 1776?
Declaring Independence
How does one [declare independence] and how does it relate to happiness?
Let me set the scene. I’m sitting in my driveway in a small town in Iowa. Our neighborhood raises funds for those who live around the golf course for a private fireworks show (Shout out to Jordan Alborn for organizing!). As the benefactor of location, our driveway faces directly into the line of sight where the fireworks are shot off, and only a couple hundred yards away.
I was sitting in my chair, and 50 or so guests had joined. New friends and old alike. The driveway and street were jam packed with golf carts. Adults joined with a chilled cocktail, kids with glow sticks, a plentiful supply of bomb pops were displayed and patriotic music played as a backdrop to the festivities.
As the fireworks exploded and my daughter’s chin dripped red and blue of melted sugar, I just smiled…ear to ear. This is ‘it’ for me. This is happiness.
How did we get here?
About 8-10 years go in my journal I sketched out the plans for our family (The family that didn’t even fully exist yet). Where would we live? What would the house include? What would surround us? Let me tell you what I wrote!
- We’d build a house on a golf course, golf cart in the garage, basketball hoop in the driveway
- We’d have a large island in the kitchen for gathering
- We’d have a rain shower head in the master bath (Yes I know it’s specific, but I wrote it)
There are many other details, but my point is two-fold. Define your happiness and do so with laser focused intention. But only do it for YOU! What we think about and write down, we manifest. The feelings I had the other night, felt like warm hug. A comforting nod that, “this is EXACTLY what you asked for,” now please, ENJOY!
Life, Liberty and the Pursuit of Happiness
I beg of my team and other peers I interact/coach with on a regular basis, “TELL ME WHAT YOU WANT” < – – – – and don’t lie!!! Tell me exactly what you want and do so with clear definition and vitality. I don’t personally care what it is, I only care that you know, and pursue it with all your might. It’s not up to me that it’s a farm with 20 acres, a lake front cabin or a Chicago high-rise condo with all the amenities. by the way, not everything is about housing. Think vacations, how you spend your time, and who you spend it with.
What do I do, if I don’t know?
Terrific question. Here are a few questions I’d challenge you with to help you aid in definition.
- What gives you endless energy?
- What activities really excite you? (think like Derek Sivers – if it isn’t a HELL YES…it’s a no)
- Who do you enjoy being around? (energy builders vs. Energy takers)
- Where do you feel like your best self?
- What does it look like? Close your eyes and see it. Define it.
I’ve listened to Norman Vincent Peale’s audiobook, “The Power of Positive Thinking” hundreds of times. He speaks vividly on the word VITALITY. Pursuing your “happiness” will provide the vitality needed to continue on with your pursuit when roadblocks arise.
As we celebrate our nation’s independence, please also give thought to your own personal independence and pursuit of happiness!
Declaration with definition and intention!!
~God Bless America
