I don’t know about the rest of you but I’m 100% sure I’m tired of hearing this. “You wouldn’t believe what happened to me!”
I’m not entirely sure when it happened, but I feel like one of our biggest challenges societally is victim thinking. It’s a borderline epidemic in our country and continues to spread. Like any horrible plauge, “this one is airborne,” so watch out!
If you’re unsure or may have a tough time putting your finger on what I mean exactly I’ve listed a few of my personal victim thought favorites below:
- It must be nice to have <insert anything you deem of monetary value>
- My boss just doesn’t get it. She doesn’t want me to succeed
- Nothing ever seems to fall in my lap like it does for <insert friend>
- We never have any money to do what we want
- I can’t do that. They’ll never let me!
- Zac is sooooo lucky. I wish I was that lucky
- Woe is me…
Do you know any of these people? I know I sure do and there is one common thread in all victim thinkers. Everything happens to them, nothing happens because of them.
EVERYTHING HAPPENS TO THEM, NOTHING HAPPENS BECAUSE OF THEM (Caps = Me YELLING!)
If you’ve read previous posts on this blog you’ll know I despise “Keeping Up With the Joneses” or living someone else’s life. I liken victim thinking challenge as equal to the challenges noted in the last sentence facing us today.
It’s easy to live wanting, hoping, wishing, and EMPTY lives. It’s easier to explain to those around you that it’s entirely someone else’s fault for: where you are, who you are, and what you may become. You’re a punching bag and everyone seems to get two turns throwing haymakers.
Stop. Good news alert!
There are three holes in our head we can focus on to impact massive change to victim thinking. They are:
- Your mouth
- Your left ear
- Your right ear
The simple control of what comes out of #1 and into the latter two holes is life changing. The beauty and simplicity of this is each of us controls this choice. No one makes it for us.
If you have 12 minutes (and I know you do) you must meet Sam Berns. He makes every word written on this post come to life! Sam could easily be a victim, but he made the difficult choice not to be.
ACTION ITEM: Control victim thinking with your ears by being able to spot it quickly and decisively. The next choice is up to you. My common response is “run like hell” when you hear it. The second control should be predictable. Speak less often about what happens to you, and find opportunities to reflect on things that happen because of you.
Lastly, if you find value in this message and have implemented any of the above or even have a comment for the readers of this blog I’d really love it if you would share. It would mean a great deal to me personally!!